Episode 63 Finding Your Ruby Slippers with Lisa Ferentz

Lisa Ferentz, author of “Finding Your Ruby Slippers: Transformative Life Lessons From the Therapist’s Couch”, emphasizes that, while most people expend tremendous amounts of energy wondering and worrying about what others think or say about them, the most powerful messages are the ones that come from yourself about yourself. Lisa Ferentz is a clinical social worker and psychotherapist who will share her key prompts for continued growth — whether facing the challenges of an eating disorder, depression or general self-improvement.

Topics Covered In This Episode:

  • How did you get involved in writing a this book?
  • Can you explain the title?
  • why are so many people often feel afraid to stand up for themselves?
  • How can we distinguish between “then” and “now”?
  • Is there a common thought pattern people who grow up in abusive relationships have?
  • How can we recognize if there are people in our lives who are impeding our growth?
  • What benefits are there for asking for help?
  • How can we learn to let go of what we can’t change?
  • How can we make sure we are putting the right amount of energy and effort into things in our lives? Ie. More and harder doesn’t work
  • How can we give up unhealthy behaviours?
  • What role do relationships play in our personal growth?
  • When we need to heal, where can we find the most powerful healing?
  • How much are people affected by worrying about what other people think?
  • How does this affect us in life?
  • How can we learn to judge ourselves less?
  • Can you explain the statement “what you feel is your choice?”
  • How responsible are we for our own emotions?
  • How can self-care help us In our relationships with others?
  • How common is it for people to invalidate their own pain and suffering?
  • How can we learn to “be present?”
  • How can we learn to “do less?”
  • When we are constantly busy, is that a sign that we might be ignoring something?
  • Can you describe depression and anxiety for us?
  • How can we make sure we are making the right decisions for ourselves?
  • How can we learn to listen to our body?
  • What is gratitude?
  • Is it possible to apologize too much?
  • How can we learn to make the right decisions about trying to change people and situations?
  • Can you explain “Act As If and It Will Become a Reality?”
  • How do our discomforts in life encourage change?
  • How can we learn to love ourselves?
  • How can we make changes when we are afraid?
  • What is self-compassion?
  • How does self-talk affect us?
  • How can we change the emotions and thoughts tied to specific events?
  • How can we stop obsessing about our failures?
  • How can we approach a part of ourselves that we don’t like?
  • How can someone find you/your book if they have any questions?